Get Money, F*ck Bitches.

If there is one statement that at least every man has said to himself at least once, it is: make money, fuck bitches. The wording in this phrase is intentional. It states that a man should first make money, and then can he proceed to copulate with bad women, or women in general. Men who have been hurt by women usually twist the phrase to begin with the copulation of bad women, or women, and then make money. But the idea is still pretty much the same. Why is it that this is a calling card for so many men out in the world?

Tony Montana in Scarface said it best when he said that first you get the money, then the power, and then you get the girl. When following this equation, a man can get a woman after he gets some power, and he will only get power when he has money. There is some truth in this.

In family gatherings, do we listen to the rich uncle or do we listen to the unemployed uncle who asks his nieces and nephews for R20 for Black? If I, Thando, approach a girl wearing Mr. Price Sport shoes or if Themba, wearing high end LV sneakers hopping out of a C63 approaches the same girl, who will she notice first? There are a number of social experiments that have been conducted online and in controlled settings that prove that the richer man or the man who looks richer will always get more attention, especially from women.

This fact, tested in empirical social research and social pranks such as “spotting the gold digger” of the 2014 – 2015 era, is further proven when hearing the oral accounts of men who appear on shows such as “I Blew It”. Every single man, except a very minute few, on that show always says how easy it became for them to get a girl once they had money. Most will tell you that they finally lived a sexual fantasy that they harboured.

One guy went to Durban with the full intention of sleeping with a different woman every single night for a week, which he claims after paying Mavuso the following morning, made it possible. Some will tell you that they changed girls daily or even hourly. Similar to what Lil Wayne, 50 Cent, Tupac and every rapper have confessed to have been their reality after becoming successful and, importantly, having money. Some might even go further to tell you that they took other men’s wives and girlfriends because they lusted after them. And the women agreed. Because the money they had made it possible.

The Russian, who trended after the Lerato situation, in one of his promotional videos for his website, said that the moment he realised how easy it was to pay to be with women as opposed to courting them, he never looked back. And indeed, most women who went to the Russian all confessed that they were there for money, nothing else. Like the lady who got married, it is reported that she went to the Russian to get the money for her wedding.

It is sad that there are women who can be exploited in this way. But one might say that they agreed to the money and understood the assignment to be done to get the money. We can discuss and argue the social morality of such a transaction. However, the truth is that the nature of such a transaction, according to economists and historians, is stated to be the oldest kind of transaction in human history.

So naturally, one asks oneself, why is it the oldest transaction in human history? More accurately, what makes this transaction valid? In Vietnam, this transaction is classified into 3 tiers:

1.       The lowest tier: The transaction happens at the street corner. It is often looked down upon, and it is the one that faces the heaviest moral judgment. The same in our country.

2.       The middle tier: The transaction happens in brothels, or women operate as ‘independent contractors’. They are not so judged as the women found on the street. They usually attract the middle-class, educated men. In our country, these are women who advertise on websites such as Red Velvet and usually charge 10 times more than the low-tier women.

3.       The upper tier: The transaction happens at high-end clubs and venues. In Memoirs of a Geisha, these are the private high-end tea houses. In our country, these are high-end clubs such as Hockey Clubs, as Jackie Phamotse calls them. What’s interesting about these women is that, unlike the other women who operate in the lower tiers, who are available to anyone who can afford them, they are usually exclusive to one or two men. They are usually more picky about approving the transaction. But in this tier, a man's wildest fantasy can be reality. Let’s never forget what happened in Dubai a few years back.

But surely you have noted that this tier system applies to women who are actively in the market for such transactions. What about the women who are not in the market?

Well, the same concept applies. This concept we can see it in an institution such as a marriage. In marriage, the man needs to prove he offers something to the woman in return for the pleasure of that woman. It may be economical, such as before the 1990s, or it can be non-economical, such as being a favourable companion for her to share forever with.

But the premise is the same: for a man to taste the forbidden fruit of a woman, a transaction of some kind must happen. When this transaction does not happen, the man becomes a monster who will forcibly eat the woman’s fruit. These men belong on the electric chair, with a wire directly connected to their savage, barbaric, untamed spectre if you ask me.

However, let’s return to the discussion at hand. You see, at the end of the day, men want to live forever. Therein lies why the nature of this transaction exists, whether it be economical or not. On a primal, biological level, the ability to live forever comes from sowing as many seeds as the man can. These seeds need a fertile garden. And not only do they need a fertile garden, but they need a gardener who will allow the seed to be sown in her garden.

Women control the procreation process. A woman can either say yes to your advances or she can say no. Women control who enters this world. And because of this, they are very strict as to who to allow to give life with.

Biologists call this strictness the Parental Investment Theory. Loosely paraphrased, the theory states that women on a subconscious and biological level know that they have a finite amount of ovaries in their bodies. And so, they will look for the strongest or the most suitable male in the village to gift him with her ovaries.

Hence, the language of romance exists. Hence, courtship exists. In today’s language, we call it the talking stage. This stage is important because it is in this stage that a woman will judge whether you, the man, are worthy to enter her garden or not. Hence, most women, even though they like you and desire you, will probably resist the urge to allow you in her garden on the first date. Because you are yet to prove that indeed, you are worthy to enter her Eden.

And men have evolved to understand this. And men have realised that the fastest way into a woman’s garden, in today’s world, is by being powerful. And being powerful can only be attained by having money. Money alone can never woo a woman. Hence, it is common to find men with money struggling to get a date. It is power that comes from money that attracts women.

This power mentioned is not limited to political or social power. It can be something else, like religious or mental power. Money can allow a young man to invest in books, strengthen his mind and through the power of his mind attract a woman who finds that sort of power attractive. Money can allow a young man to invest in the church, form a deeper connection with God, and some women will find this Man of God as the ideal, perfect man to be awarded with her God-given gift to create life.

And herein lies why the mantra, make money and procreate with women comes from. Without money, it is impossible to sow your seeds into a woman’s garden. I once seduced a woman with the full intention of leading her to my bedroom. This woman appreciated my seduction. She accepted my invitation. But here was the catch.

She lived about 100 km away from me. I did not have the money to go to her or to bring her to me. We had passed the talking stage. I succeed. So much so that we would initiate in the beautiful life-giving dance between man and woman over the phone quite a few times. We genuinely yearned for each other.

But I did not have the money to translate this pleasurable dance into real life. And because of this, we only fused telephonically, never in real life. I know that this is not the case with every woman. I have been privileged enough to have women who, once I passed the talking stage, would take it upon themselves to organise my physical walk-through into her garden.

But even in that, the reason this could happen was that I had invested in myself well enough that she found me worthy. This investment in self did not magically happen; it happened with money. Money to buy decent clothes, money to buy decent food, money to buy books, money to have a gym membership, money to invest in masculinity in a way that the women that I find attractive will find me worthy for their ovaries.

In essence, that is why then when men have money, it becomes easier for them to be “attractive”. Whether it is with women who make it clear they want money, the one who wants Mavuso the next morning or even the church girl who finds the Man of God attractive, money can help a man attain the woman that he desires.

Apropos the mantra, as long as women operate on their subconscious and biological instincts to go for the most suitable mate, men will continue to chant this mantra. This mantra is what motivates a man to wake up in the morning. Whether it is for the husband who wants to give his wife the world, or the young man who wants to spread his seeds in as many gardens as possible. This mantra is the core of a man’s being.

This mantra is the reason Napoleon Hill dedicated an entire chapter in his famous book Think and Grow Rich. In this chapter, he basically explains that a man’s wild, intense desire to recreate myself, when redirected into his efforts for success, he will likely find it. Research in Human Resources has proven that in workplaces that hire subjectively attractive women, they have found that men in these workplaces are more productive than in workplaces that have subjectively unattractive women.

This is the reason why clubs will always hire beautiful women to be the table girls. In the company of beautiful women, men on a biological and subconscious level want to prove that they are worthy. Again, we can see this at the club. When the alcohol hits, and the mind begins to switch off, men will begin to spend recklessly all in the hope of going home with a girl or two.

Every man wants to date the most beautiful woman in the village. The most beautiful woman in the village only wants to be with the most powerful man in the village. In today’s global village, a man can only get powerful with money.

“Botle ba monna ke dikgoma tsa hae.”

“Monna o senang Kgomo ke mosimane. Mosimane o nang le kgomo ke monna.”

And hence the expression: “Make money, fuck bitches.”